One day i will!!

As a human being, i have always given importance to my each and every relationship, i love each one who is present in my life, apart from this attitude of mine i have lost one of my very good friend.

My friend is a very intelligent and a genuine person he has always provided me good suggestions whenever i was in need of it also he is been very patient throughout, he listened to my stupid talks and answer all my questions..he is sweet friend but then some misunderstanding happened and he suddenly stopped talking to me.

even after knowing very clearly that he doesn't want to talk to me i continued talking to him because i wanted to talk and maintain the relationship, in friendship it usually happens that friends get upset from each other but thats then thats on the individuals that whether they want to continue the friendship or not...in my case i want to...knowing very well that he is angry with me for the reason which i don't know, i will continue trying and one day will get friend back:)))

Optimism is necessary in friendship, so i am going to be positive in this case.

have you ever faced any situation like so??

Dilemma

Now a days i am not able to understand myself, i don't know exactly what i want its an ambiguous situation and i am not able to take any decision of mine. life is looking like a hell. everyday i woke and take a resolution to be happy, but then i fail.

I always used to believe that there are two paths which life give us the one which is easy but not correct and the another which is correct but not easy...but then i realised that life is more than that and its easy to choose between the right and wrong but its very difficult to choose between two right paths and in our day to day life we are encountered with such situations only..right now m facing the same and m unable to take any decision of mine

generally i used to follow my heart in such situations so i think i should go by that
well thats about me.. what u guys do in such kind of situations??

Essence of LOVE

Its always good to be a part of any discussion, i got this opportunity almost daily...the most criticised and most loved topic of our group is LOVE...there always a spectrum of opinions formed whenever any issue is raised but for this topic i got some very weired and unexpected opinions. Some of my friends said that they might kill their lovers if they ditch them, others said they can do any thing to seek attention and some reactions i can't even mention, otherwise one may loose their faith in love.

Individuals are unique and have different opinions on different issues and i respect those too. in my opinion as one of my friends asked, love is..hmmm...well i think love has many shades it differ from person to person. loving is the foremost charactersictic of being a human being. Honestly speaking for me, love is to see someone happy and succesful in his life. it doesn;t ask for any terms and conditions,it has the power to a mould a person, one can do anything for someone special of ours, without putting any condition even its ironical but true

We oftenly use the term TRUE LOVE, in my opinion love doesn't need the adjective of "true" , It is always true, and if its not then its not love.

Through this post i want to put forward the real essence of love (according to me, it may not be generalised) and want to know that how many of you feel the same....

Why do People Fight??

A fight between two people is oftenly seen in our day to day life. Not differentiating myself from the mainstream society, i also get indulge into fights many a times.

There can be many reason for the person getting into a fight, the reason which i derived was little different (thats what i think). Fights can be of two types one is external, in which one fights with the other person and the other one is internal, wherein one fights with ones own innerself. Also the latter can be taken as the cause for the former in many cases.

An internal fight is between the expectations of others and our own desires. And as a part of reality we rarely fulfil our desires and work hard to come upto the expectations of others. This creats some kind of disonance in our mind and prepares the platform for frustations and this frustration works as the major ingredient for any fight. It ignites ones temperament and forces him or her to get involved in fight which is external in nature.

In my opinion, we need to bridge the gap between our desires and others expectations in a proper manner in order to reduce the instances of Fights. now this is what i think..can u suggest some other measures of reducing the number of fights??

Communication

Communication is a very important aspect of our life, it can be defined as the transfer of information from one source to another. When a child is born he is not capable to speak out, but from his body language, he communicate his need and attains satisfaction.

I give very much importance to communication, both at professional and personal level. Social work, a profession where communication plays a very vital role in the fulfillment of the objectives of various programs initiated by respective agencies. We being professional social workers are supposed to work with people of urban and rural slums, disabled persons, corporate etc and are asked to build brilliant rapport with the members of the respected areas. We go into communities and talk to people and believe that within a very short span of time we will develop a kind of trust with them wherein people will start sharing their problems with us. Initially I didn’t believed it but with the passage of time when I myself started working, then realized that, it is possible! Actually it was been made possible because of the frequent interaction with the people. well after two years i can say that i have developed an intense relationship with most of the members of the community.

As a social worker i have also worked in corporate, there the pattern of communication was more of formal kind but yet i was able to develop good interpersonal relationship with some of the senior officers of the company. This helped me a lot in understanding various aspect of the working of the organization. Also through communication i will say, i was able to take out some hidden information of the organisation.

At personal level...well i have observed that as we grow older we stop expressing our feelings infront of others. there are lot of reasons attached to it. By that time we learnt to control our desires and start prioritising it. I have often heard people saying that certain things need to be expressed and it should be understood by the other person if he or she knows me., i always don't agree on this as i believe that even for understanding someone, we need to express ourselves infront of that person. For any relationship, communication and expression of desires and needs are very important. it is an essential ingredient for the sustainability of long term relationship.
Well what is notion for this...???

A Quest..

A Quest is .....

A New Beginning

hello.....to all of the brilliant and creative people of this world:> this is a new beginning, a new phase of my life where i wanted to share my views and listen to yours...and i hope the members of this world will accept me with full heart. I have been reading the blogs of lot many people and then got an idea to start of my own

There are other reasons attached to it as i wanted to say a lot many things but was searching for the right platform, and right people too. Sometimes your views doesn't get accepted or appreciated by others just because they don't want to accept it but through this medium i can find some people who can at least think about my views with a right perspective


so looking forward to your support..thank you